Gal Pal problems.

First you have to answer this; are you willing to lose this guy as a friend? Gain him as an enemy?

Because that's what will probably happen if you pursue this girl. Now, whether or not you do that is an entire other question. I'm not sure what you should do, but I do know what I'd do. I'd be honest, with both of them. It may result in some nasty stuff, but in the end you'll feel better for it.

Or you'll feel like shit. But honesty really is the best policy, in my opinion.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Moot? If you were honest it shouldn't be in an attempt to get in her pants. It'd be an effort to do what's best for all involved. Like as not your current advice is most likely biased anyway, and your growing distance from this guy is probably stemming from your feelings for this woman, too.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Aequitas

As for honesty being the best policy. The problem is that she is under soo much mental stress right now and is still in love with him. My saying that now would probably only put her under more stress and would be moot since she still has strong feelings for her. Right?

Originally Posted by Fresh Frank

It'd be an effort to do what's best for all involved.

Sorry if I was vague, I'll calrify. Yes, it may put her under more, stress. I took your 'moot' comment to mean that it wouldn't result in you two having any relations beyond what you do now, and it in fact may lead to less. That's all true, sadly. But in the long run being honest with her would be the best course.

It'd take a load off your back by allowing you to finally be honest with her in all areas, and free you of the burden of looking at everything objectively. And, previously stated, it'd probably suck for her at first but in the end she'd thank you for it.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

That is ideal SMX, but I don't think our dear Aequietas has it in him to do so. Just read his posts...

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