Coming out to family and friends

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Thanks for the help so far, everyone. I agree there's no need to tell if you're not involved with anyone, however, I recently got into dating a guy, so it would nice to be truthful about things.

Yeah, that changes it, then. =p It also gives you a way to bring it up, though it might not be the BEST way.

I used to worry a lot about how I would tell people, and I'd try to think of a good time to bring it up, or so on and so forth, but it would never happen. This went on for a couple of years, and then I just decided that it wasn't worth stressing out about it. For the time being, it doesn't matter whether they know or not; I'm not actively seeking a relationship, and I'm not dating, so what does it matter? I felt like if it ever came up, I had no reason to avoid the topic, but no point mixing things up otherwise.

Now, the only problem with this advice is that I still haven't come out yet. =p No real reason to, as I can tell. I expect a fairly negative reaction, but it's really a matter of risk versus reward: it's not going to change anything in my life, for better or worse, by making a big stint of it. The second it starts impacting my life, though, it's not worth it any more -- I'm going to have to come out EVENTUALLY, so once I see some benefit in it I'll go for it.


I guess to answer your original question, "don't ask don't tell" works best. Not because you should hide it, or you should try to hide it, but if it really doesn't matter, you shouldn't worry about it. You know? If it comes up in conversation, that's great; it's one less hassle.


My thoughts are REALLY disconnected right now but maybe you got the gist of the post anyway. =P Best of luck!

Jam it back in, in the dark.