When they're down...

Originally Posted by Shorty

EDIT: OOPS. SOMEONE MOVE THIS TO TQP PLEASE!!!

Let's face it: times are tough.

When unemployment hits or job search isn't going well for your significant other or family member, how do you deal with them?

I say significant other more importantly, because I think that's the person you spend most of your time with (or most likely live with). And them not having a job or having a rough time with it, ultimately brings on stress at home as well.

In my eyes it seems to weigh more heavily on relationships when the females have the better job or the guys have just gotten the shaft. Perhaps because men innately have the protective / possessive nature that makes them feel like they should say "it's okay, I can support you."

I feel like for females, our innate motherly-nuturing nature kicks in when he's down, we try to help like suggesting contacts / resume help and whatnot, and it ultimately tampers with their ego because it makes them feel like they can't handle the unemployed situation alone.

I try not to touch the subject as much as possible, but it does make it hard to be supportive. Guys, how would you like to be treated in those situations?

Wow, it is like you are living my life. I have been having a lot of trouble finding work and I live with my fiance and she hasn't been able to get a job either. We are stressed and at each other's throats a lot because we both feel bad for not working, both are worried about how we'll pay the bills, and we get little sleep because of the constant stress and worrying. Honestly, all you can do is take a deep breath, apologize when you've been hurtful, and hope for the best. Take time to strengthen your relationship or keep being productive. That's helped a lot.

Jam it back in, in the dark.