At an inate level, I am scared of girls.

You should be scared. Women are scary. I think it is because they are hard to understand. However, I think the degree to which you are scared may be too high. I think that with regular counseling you could potentially solve this problem. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy would teach you to be more comfortable around girls and you'll have an easier time dealing with them. Hope that helps! Sorry it was so late in coming!

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by LeHah

My cognitive behavioral therapy of kicking the crap out of you would teach you not to be a weirdo Internet narcissistic psychoanalyst.

Wow, you are not a nice person at all are you? Oh well, I don't expect much from people who hurl insults freely just because they are anonymously posting on the internet. Also, who is psychoanalyzing whom when you are calling me a narcissist? If anything I am a nice, helpful person and that apparently irritates you.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by NewNick

Jesus, this thread is depressing. Apparently, the fact that I lost my virginity when I was 22 makes me a freak and a lost cause to ever finding a non-inhuman mate for which to settle down with. Seriously, I could go blow my brains out right now. I mean, I'm not saying this for attention, because I'm pretty sure the only response I'm going to get is a lulz-worthy "Remember to cut down the street and not across the road!!!1!one" or a coolly delivered "Make sure to lay down a tarp so as to reduce the amount of cleanup."

I mean, I get it, half this thread is just flaming and trolling, because that's what you guys do to each other since you've all known each other for like a decade or more. But underlying the flaming there's a somewhat-serious discussion here about guys that are pussies and guys that get pussy. So because I've had only one relationship that lead to sexual intercourse and since it occurred beyond a supposed point of sexual maturity, I'm supposed to live with my life as a sub-human being? Seriously?

Is it this abnormal to want to pursue a relationship in a.) a way that is slower but ultimately more meaningful, and b.) that lasts multiple years as opposed to multiple weeks?

I felt accomplished moving into my 4th year with my girlfriend, before she became my ex. Was I wrong in feeling so?

disclaimer: I'm drunk.

edit: really drunk, because after i got the infraction, i was like "wtf, i'm not suicidal?". So apparently I was literally just saying that for attention.

I definitely don't think that you are sub-human. I think that it is actually commendable that you were able to pursue a serious relationship and have an encounter with a woman that was meaningful. I don't think there's any reason to beat yourself up over anything or to think as though others are judging you because if they are then they are just being combative.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.