I make a great first impression... and little else.

I've learned over time that you can't really change the person you really are no matter how much you try to and forcing a change in behavior is almost the same as lying to yourself and anyone else you associate with.


You have to give things time. You're not going to meet someone and hit it off with them on the first try. You're bound to find someone come across your life that can see who you are truly and show interest.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by MTGNecro

Since I am going for the same advice at this point...*ahem*

I am stuck in this place for 10 weeks, and we have about 4 more to go. The previously mentioned girl is putting me on for a bit of a roller coaster ride. Either she is the best damned actress in the world, or she goes from wanting me to not.

Granted, she is everything I want in a girl, and socially is the opposite of me. I am the kind of guy who doesn't mind staying in and reading a book, she is the kind who goes out partying at 6 in the evening and doesnt stop til noon the next day. We hit it off so well awhile back and it was great. Now I ask her if she wants to do something and I get the all caps text message back saying "No," though not in so few words. I envy her because she manages the quirky and still gets along with people. I want to change myself as a person just a bit. I just don't know how.

EDIT: Forgot to mention...fuck my life they are in the room next to ours, so I can hear them all the time.

This sounds like one of those "wrapped around finger" kinda things. Think things through a bit and feel it. Does it look like something that can go long term? Even if you try to change who you are, will it change how she sees you or how she will act toward you?


Wish I could help more but I dunno. Good luck boss.

There's nowhere I can't reach.