Roommates

Why don't you move out? Rather than stressing, getting mad, and crying each day, you could be living happily in your own place.

If you really want to stay with the guy, you need to be more confrontational or else your life will remain a living hell.
I hate people who think they can order you around like you are their own personal servant. Jokingly or not, it's fucking degrading.

You really need to see eye to eye to each other and understand each other's expectations of each other. If you guys fail to do that, then things will never get better for you.
If you do come to a resolve, but things gradually go back to the way they are now, fuck it. Leave, because things will just cycle over and over.

Weigh your pro's and con's of staying. And as the comedian Russell Peter's would say, "Be a MAN! Do the right thing!"

Oh, and save the kitty.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

How long do you have left?
Maybe you should turn things around and make his life a living hell ^_^

There's nowhere I can't reach.