At an inate level, I am scared of girls.

I think the argument is kind of silly. There's nothing wrong with either answer that's been posted here. The important thing to remember for people and people of the opposite sex is that everyone approaches dating a bit differently. For some people they prefer the long method because maybe it takes them a long time to suss someone out or to trust them. And some people just jump right in and that works for them and the other person.

I just find it silly to argue which is right when there's no real right answer here. And certainly the generalization that all girls who give out their numbers are sluts is a bit ridiculous as well. It also depends what stage of life you are in right now too. If you're still a student, the long slow method works a little bit better because you probably have more time to do random little things every so often but when you get older and get a job I imagine this time for meandering about is lessened somewhat.

As lame as this whole answer is, my real advice is...play it by ear. Some girls move faster than other, there's not going to be one "method" that works.

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Originally Posted by Big Gay Chulo

When I was a student I had more meaningless one-night stands in six months than in the rest of my life outside of university. Being a student is exactly the wrong time to pussy about holding hands and passing secret messages back and forth with girls, if only because there are going to be hundreds of blokes around like me who will swoop in, get her number and bang her that same night, leaving you alone and crying along to Linkin Park records.

You make a good point that uni sucks because...you're only there for so long. So I give you that, hadn't thought about that.

But I think what you're talking about is more a lesson in confidence and taking the initiative than dating styles. I guess I don't equate taking a long time as passing text messages back and forth for months. And if you're a guy who's trying to date a girl who DOESN'T have that kind of patience...it's probably not going to work out anyway. If that makes sense?

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