Confusing girl issue

Originally Posted by bluesy violin

When you want to set a date with a girl, be certain on the timing. You may think it's better to say "Is Thursday or Friday Okay?" But that shows you're not confident.

I don't mean to be rude but...seriously?

I don't think asking a girl out is going to be ruined if you ask which day is best for her...that's etiquette. And if a girl says she can't tell you until a certain date...that's life. Sometimes you wont know your plans until someone gets back to you. Or you don't know what happening with work scheduling, it does not mean she hates your guts.

There's a difference between confidence and...you know, common sense.

I mean, I hate to say it but that's over analyzing things to a ridiculous degree. You don't need to have a plan of action to ask a girl out. Every girl is different, just be nice, if you want to ask her out, figure out what works best for her personality, there's no right or wrong way to do these things.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Rude? Certainly not. But I'm not really saying it's bad to be decisive.

I guess I just haven't met the girl who hears "How about something over the weekend?"...or some range of dates, and sees this as a lack of confidence. Though that's not really the point I'm making either.

I agree with people who said having a plan is good, sometimes you can read bad signals, but I guess the point I'm making is there is a point where thinking into how one is saying something or how to ask a girl out down to the minute details of how to ask what time works best, it's just too a bit too much. I used to think into that stuff in high school and I was a nervous wreck because of it. I'd have to think of what to say before I called someone and it drove me nuts. Then I came to the revelation that if you're asking out a girl, have a plan, but don't say something just right so that she rejects you, it probably wasn't worth your time. Saying "if she says this it means this"...I don't know, guess I don't see it that way.

So, in conclusion decisiveness is a plus, but over thinking things is always a step to the dark side.

There's nowhere I can't reach.