Charisma

Do you have it?

If you don't know what charisma is:

Originally Posted by Cambridge Dictionary

Charisma:
a special power which some people possess naturally which makes them able to influence other people and attract their attention and admiration.

I think "special power" is a little over the top, but you get the idea.

Personally, I believe I have a good amount of charisma. I can definitely turn it on and off depending on how sociable I feel at the time, but it IS there. If I feel like being friendly (and hell, sometimes even when I don't) people usually take a liking to me pretty quickly. I make friends at a pretty quick pace and can get along with just about anyone. This is definitely helpful in the realm of love, considering I'm not exactly a super stud here, having a personality and (from what other people have told me) a great sense of humor is definitely something that I'm grateful for.

I've met plenty of people who are far more charismatic than I, and I usually try and see what they're doing right. It's always good to learn from someone who seems to know the game better than you.

On the flip side, I've met people who just aren't people people. Lol. Basically, they don't have any tact, no personality, or just don't know how to act around people. They lack charisma.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

To add more to this discussion:

My bass player is one charismatic motherfucker. More charismatic than anyone I've ever met. Everywhere we go he runs into someone he knows (usually multiple people and females). Everyone says hi to him. You would swear he was the lead quarterback in a small town or something. He gets the hottest chicks. Man, I thought I was good shit when I joined this band but holy fuck, this dude leaves me in the shadows. THAT is the kind of charisma I would like to learn. I've been working on it, taking tips from him here and there, but it's not really working as well as I'd like it to. One thing I do know, is that it's not an overnight thing.

I've asked him for tips before and all he said was he doesn't really look at himself that way and only a handful of them are his real friends, so why bother in the first place?

Despite the competitive urge inside of me, I realize that truer words have never been spoken.

There's nowhere I can't reach.