Trying to get this guy

Hey, so my problem is simple:

I'm attracted to this guy, and I'm not sure how to handle the situation; I know it's not love because I've only been aquainted with him, I don't know shit about him, and it's purely infatutation (he's hot!).

He knows I like him;I told him over the internet and he's cool with it; but I sense that he's sort of trying to avoid me at school and such, and we rarely say hi even when we see each other.

Our only sort of communication outside of school is email, in which most of the time I am sending and he is replying with short reponses. Of course since this is my chase, I'm going to making the moves, but is there anyway this can pick up and fly?

I'm probably not looking for a relationship, more like a fuckbuddy or a friend with (good) benefits. What should I do to express this without embarrassing myself or whatever?

Jam it back in, in the dark.

There's two conflicting ideas here: 1. make good friends first OR 2. hope for a good response from a direct question.

The making good friends part is sort of difficult because
1. yea, closet case both ways.
2. his friends are my aquaintances as well
3. last years of high school
4. Don't want to out him and he doesn't want to be outted (yet).

The direct question one is definately easier but could end uncomfortably; should that risk be worth it or should I wait it out?

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Thanks for all the help everyone!

Alright to clear some stuff up:

1. I'm 16 turning 17, he's 17 almost 18.
2. We knew each other since we both are in the same circle of friends, and we've talked a few times in a school trip to another state once.
3. I came out to him after inviting him to a gay chatroom- he obviously isn't interested in girls.
4. He seemed okay with it, we talked for a while.
5. He only emailed me once without me emailing him, and he said
"Hey just wanted to say sorry if i kinda neglected you. Everytime i see you i get kinda scared or a little nervous to say hi haha kinda dumb i know." that's a quote.
6. We haven't talked face to face since the email incident besides two hand waves two seperate times.


So I think it would be best if I asked him to a movie or something and see if he is interested at all. Any last thoughts before I jump off the cliff?

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Well after reading Leknaat's post I was a little disheartened; I would hate to drop this after what happened already.

I am regretting maybe moving too fast, I was thinking that maybe I didn't really WANT a boyfriend relationship and just wanted some fun.

and how does cultivating a relationship go? I actually don't ever remember approaching ANYONE about being friends (I always GET approached). It would be awkward due to the fact that we already know each other, and he already knows about me, and all this friends surround him in a bubble all 8hours of school.

Additional Spam:
btw his friends aren't my 'friends'. They are my aquaintances, meaning I know who they are and they know who I am. That's the best it's gonna get. Another question brought by this can be " How to get some alone time to talk?"

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Alright thanks for the advice.

I've msged him about doing some stuff together and I guess all there is to do is to wait.

How ya doing, buddy?

Thanks for the concern, but I don't really think this will develop anywhere that far anyways (although I hope it does). Besides the point, we both are virgins and we both aren't depressed.


.... and I'm not too into the relationship deal anyways; as of now, commitment is the last thing on my mind.

btw it's amusing to see the conflict of ideas here; just a thought

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Safety is number 1, but getting to the point where that's an issue is the problem.

I guess gay guys tend to care more of themselves better I'm guessing.

If you're looking for gay-looking straight guys, I'm pretty sure the new 'race' is the metrosexual. It's like two in one!

FELIPE NO

That's true, I've met some queens that love girls. I don't know if I trust them 100% with the truth, but if they say it I'll take it.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Well, I see what you mean.

I guess I'm going to just leave it be for a month and see what comes of it; then I'll just ask straight forward before he goes to college.

Jam it back in, in the dark.