Love or sex?

Originally Posted by Plarom

Ugh, the idea of being with someone for the rest of your life, and they're horrible in bed? Christ, why not just have a very close friend? I vote neither. If we're talking forever, there's no middle ground. It's both or neither.

I'll quote this because it is super-ultra true. I've been in relationships where the sex was terrible, and it's impossible to make that work. I won't say that other people might find it okay to be like that but to me, no sex is better than bad sex, and having bad sex with one person for the rest of my life sounds like a fucking nightmare (EDIT: no pun intended). Like Chris Rock says, life is long if you make the wrong decisions.

So yeah, both or neither. I'll never settle for "halfway there" when it comes to a relationship.

Oh also, like "Back Alley Ally" and some others say, complaining to someone else about bad sex is Goddamn retarded. Given that the sex is bad, communication is the only hope you have of ever working things out. Don't bother other people with your or your boyfriend's erectile dysfunction problems. I know from experience it's not just girls that do this. (Also, a lot of girls who complain about bad sex don't seem to realize that the problem may be them.)

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Plankton614

If I find the girl with whom I can connect emotionally and with whom I can converse to no end, why is there a need to connect physically? After all, the parts are always the same, just in slightly different shapes and sizes; personalities, on the other hand, are always unique. I recently confounded a more "free-wheeling" friend of mine with this logic.

Your "free-wheeling" friend should've realized that sex is an expression of personality just as much as your favourite sitcom is.

Anyway, all you folks saying that personality is a factor in choosing a mate--of course! Of course you're gonna find people attractive for other reasons than their shiny hair or their C-cups. But the question is: would you rather be in love with someone who you're not attracted to and doesn't satisfy you (physically and/or mentally), or have good sex with someone you don't love (for the rest of your life)?

To me, both those prospects are pretty Goddamn depressing. I would much rather be alone.

There's nowhere I can't reach.