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Originally Posted by Duo Maxwell

It's like should I be bothered by the fact that I can't find people who are capable of spelling at the level a high school graduate should? Or, you know, is it a problm that I don't make 80K/year at my age?

I know this was a while ago but I need to point this out and invoke Kaufman's Law: whenever you talk about intelligence you will make a typo (or, in the extended version, otherwise fuck up). I'm hoping Kaufman's Law will be a household term someday. =D

Anyway... Other people have said it but since I'm posting I might as well add my two cents. It sounds a little bit like you want a relationship really badly but you're also "picky". Neither of those are bad things as such, but both can be hard because they can conflict a bit (as you've experienced).

For me personally, I'm much happier being alone than being in a relationship with someone that I can't respect, for whatever reason. I know that sounds pretentious but in the end relationships are about respect as much as love, and if I can't respect my girlfriend, I will stop loving her sooner or later, and that feeling of knowing you're in a car that's going to crash is pretty gut-wrenching.

A friend of mine was in such a relationship for over five years before it finally fell apart. That is the kind of thing you want to avoid.

My point is I don't think you should try so hard to find the right person. If you meet someone that you like, try to go out with her and if you don't like the way it turns out, just say "maybe we should just be friends" or or "God my socks smell good today" or "I'm gay". And if she doesn't like you, don't worry about it. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. It shouldn't be work.

And at age 22 you have absolutely nothing to worry about. I've got several friends who didn't meet the girl of their dreams until they were in or near their 30s.

EDIT: I just read my post back and this may be unclear: I don't mean "be passive and let people just come at you and see what happens", cause that's a highway to lonelyville. You do have to get out there and meet people, get them to feel chemistry for you, and make your choices.

How ya doing, buddy?

Lola is exaggerating, you don't really have to act like an ass. But acting like a pussy is much worse.

Girls (especially cute girls) don't care about looks much, and they certainly don't want their boyfriend to be their therapist, or their supporter. They got girlfriends for that.

What they want is unpredictability, excitement, a challenge. Being an ass is closer to those qualities than being a lapdog.

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It always seemed to me, that the worthwhile ones came when I wasn't looking and wasn't trying.

Yeah, I totally agree. You never know when you might run into somebody that'll just blow you away. I certainly didn't expect to fall for my current girlfriend. Just keep your eyes open and enjoy life regardless of whether you're single or not, you're bound to meet somebody.

There's nowhere I can't reach.