Creative Dating Ideas

Originally Posted by Alice

Whatever you do, DON'T take a girl to a movie or a concert on your first date. First dates are about getting to know each other, and how are you supposed to talk in a movie or at a concert?

For a first date, I'd suggest something short. Meet at a coffee shop then go for a walk...something like that. Actually, for the first few dates I'd steer clear of anything where your conversations will be limited. Save those kinds of dates for after you've gotten to know one another.

And let's be honest. There's nothing worse than realizing on the way to the theatre that you don't want to be out on a date with a guy, then realizing that you still have a two-hour movie AND a two-hour dinner to get through before you can go home and never have to see him again.

You also don't want to go movie/dinner/concert because you don't want to put yourself in a situation where you have to foot a large bill.

Contrary to what you may have heard, girls don't like when guys pick up the check. Well, they like it, but they also interpret it as you "buying" some time with her. Good for her self-esteem--but not good for your chances of ever getting laid, as this puts the power in her court. And if there's one thing that girls seem to hate in a relationship it's having power. Ohoho! Seriously though, they want some power but not ALL of it.

Another bad thing about dinner in particular is conversation is very strained. You have to be pretty funny and ad rem to make dinner conversation between two people riveting (and you do want to be riveting on a date).


So yeah, I agree that a coffee shop or a walk in the park is an excellent first date. It's short, (usually) quite intimate, and inexpensive. You can also escape quickly if the date goes sour, and the girl doesn't feel like you're trying to buy your way into her pants. The only risk is ending in the "friend zone", but that's all about attitude. If you push her buttons, she'll feel attraction to her whether she wants to or not (but that's subject for another topic).

For more "expansive" date ideas, it really depends on the girl, and the options you have available to you. I like dates at the roller coaster park, zoo/aquarium, or the beach if the weather is nice. Karaoke can be good if you can sing worth anything, and especially if you can get one of those private rooms. Perhaps something like skiing or bowling would be fun, I've never tried it as a date. A date with activity in it that people automatically find fun or fascinating is generally a good idea.

Jam it back in, in the dark.