I found a girl - there is a god! Or not?

Originally Posted by Ayos

don't er... well the classic way of saying it is "put the pussy on a pedestal."

Exploding megathumbs up for that! Great movie.

Anyway, I'll throw in my two cents as well, Ayos and others did a great job already so I'll just add to what was said.

If she doesn't seem to care either way talking about her exes (provided these are "proper" relationships and not glorified one night stands), either she is a a bit of a bitch, or she has a way of hiding her true feelings.

It's possible that she mentions her exes because she thinks it indicates to you that she is "hot property". If so, it's manipulative behaviour. She is saying two things: 1) "many guys went before and weren't adequate, are you?", and 2) "if you do not satisfy me, you are easily replaced." Whatever her intentions, never give in to that temptation. If she wanted a puppy, she'd get one from the pet store, and if she wanted a slave, she'd be a settler in the 1800s.

Of course, the fact that she is "always smiling"... Nobody I've heard of is that happy, and I know some pretty happy people. In my experience people in broken homes often learn to hide their feelings and put on a brave face. Perhaps she is indicating that she's been with many men in a desperate attempt to make you stay longer than those other men. For what it's worth, I've never heard of an Asian girl that didn't want to get married.

Either way, don't let it get to you, that's the most important thing. I guarantee that she'll like you more if you're not another pussy that she can push around, no matter what kind of person she is. That shit's boring, and boring is the last thing you want to be.

(I agree that this should be in Angst Advice.)

EDIT: Don't get me wrong, I'm also saying you should stick with it (unless you find the relationship unbearable, but it doesn't sound like you do). As Dutch soccer expert Johan Cruijff once said: "the more you have the ball, the more likely you are to score a goal." =D

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Woah, that just changed the whole situation completely!

With this new info, I'm guessing you're attracted to her because she's a challenge. She gives as good as she gets, and so on.

I don't think you really need any advice though. Seeing as you already know how to build up a relationship, you shouldn't have any trouble with this girl, no matter how much experience she has or whatever. Don't change your game plan--don't tell her she's "special", don't tell her you want to get married, and for God's sake don't write a song and name it after her. Just do the same thing you always do that you know works with girls.

Of course, that's assuming you're not just lying... No offense, but it wouldn't be the first time a person's bullshitting about his conquests on the internet. If you ask me why you (or anyone) would do that, I don't know, so that's why I assumed you're not lying. But I can't really ignore the possiblity either--like LeHah said, something doesn't sit right.

There's nowhere I can't reach.