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surasshu · 04:13 PM

Originally Posted by Vivace119

I will give you some advice for when you go to University, I have been at University for a week now so I know some pitfalls to avoid.

This amused me a great deal. =D

Anyway seriously, I used to be a lot like you man, and I turned my life around. Looks don't matter to women unless you're excessively repulsive. What everybody else said is true: confidence. Don't take your exchanges with girls seriously. Goof off, be cheeky, make fun of them, and so on.

I'll give you a few specific things that you can try to get confidence levels up. Some of which others might've mentioned, but I'll chime in and stuff. Don't get me wrong, I don't have all the answers so take away from this whatever you want. Most of this stuff came from friends who are way more successful with girls than I'll ever care to be.

Okay enough disclaimers:

1) She is not doing you a favor by spending time with you--if anything, you're giving her a shot to hang with someone great (you).

2) If you meet a nice girl, don't spend too much time on the first meeting. The first meeting is a chance encounter, so there's no way you have that much time to waste. In a club setting, that means you're going back to your friends, and if it's in a shopping mall, you got shit to buy. Strike up a conversation, and if it has any spark at all, leave because you have stuff to do (make something up if you have to). Ask her for her email address. If she says she doesn't have one, ask her if she has electricity in her cave. I prefer email because it's much, much, much easier to write a good email than it is to have a good phone conversation, and well, I don't like to date girls that don't have an email address. That's a dealbreaker to me. =D

3) Stand up straight, smile, make eyecontact, minimise unnecessary movement, and talk in a low voice (not soft, but low, vibrating your chest as opposed to your throat). All of these things say "confidence", and if you start doing them, you'll start feeling more confident, and that is what really matters.

4) Be confident but don't make fun of things that are sensitive. Weight is a big one, no pun intended. You do want to be confident, cocky even, but you don't want to be an asshole.

5) Smell good. Obvious, but I still gotta mention it, cause as far as I know this is THE physical thing that turns women off. Looks don't seem to matter much at all (nowhere near as much as it matters to us guys). I read somewhere that women have better sense of smell than men, and while I don't know if that's true, I feel it's the right state of mind.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

surasshu · Local time: Oct 11, 2006, 01:17 PM

Originally Posted by Vkamicht

I can't be the only one out there who is very attracted to this type of person, am I? I'm just reading these replies and thinking "Nooooo, don't change!"

There's nothing wrong with being shy or innocent--as you clearly can confirm, some girls like that kind of thing (although a lot just say they do, and then proceed to marry the insensitive and abusive jerk, which is why most of us guys are so confused about what the fuck girls want from a guy). But being so shy that it prevents you from ever meeting anybody, that's just too immobilising.

Originally Posted by Vkamicht

Just be yourself... and if you are shy and scared, then so be it. I think it's cute as hell.

I basically agree with the sentiment, because I believe you should be confident, not act it.

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