Have you/would you stay with someone if they cheated?

I have been in a situation where I was in a long term relationship and the girl cheated on me, and I did break it off for that reason. But circumstances weren't quite quite the way you describe them in your post.

I was in love with her, but I also was quite painfully aware of the fact that she was not in love with me anymore. In a way, the fact that she cheated on me provided us both with an "easy way" to break off the relationship. And after some internal conflict and having to resolve my feelings for her, I can now speak to her as a friend (though we're never going to be very close).

Anyway to answer the topic question: the old, cynical me would've said that I would dump her at the drop of a hat. I've dumped girls over less.

However now that I found the girl of my dreams things become more complicated. I suppose that even if she cheated on me, I'd try my best to find it in my heart to forgive her and make it work despite it.

Of course, I can't imagine her cheating on me, because it's disgusting and I think she's better than that. =D

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Forsety

That's pretty funny. I was with the same person for almost four years and the one who did the cheating was her, not me. It's unfair to scrutinize an entire gender based on the actions of another person. It's just as likely for a woman to give in to a "moment of weakness" as it is for a guy. I really hope you were at least half-joking with that post. At least partially.

No, women are really stupid, so she probably actually believes that.

=D

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by ElectricSheep

I don't even really look at other girls when I'm in a relationship--I'm always having them pointed out to me by my male coworkers and friends. My thoughts are almost always on the girl I'm seeing now.

This is actually kind of difficult for me. Even though I'm in a relationship and I'm happy in it (more than happy), I have trouble not-looking at other girls.

It's not even something where I compare them to my girlfriend or think about leaving her or cheating on her--it's almost more like a reflex or a habit. I feel bad about it though, so I try not to do it, but it's much harder than I thought it would be.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

My grandma actually caught my grandfather cheating on her, and she kicked him out and divorced him. I have tremendous respect for her because of that, it takes some real balls to stand up like that even though she was married to him for like 30 years and he was responsible for most of the income of the household.

I don't know if humans are meant to be homogenous. I know that the best way to raise kids is in a normal household with both parents, though. I think cheating is pretty tasteless anyway (are you so incapable of controlling your urges?), but even moreso when you have more than just yourself and your woman who could get hurt.

Or man, but I'm speaking for myself and I don't swing that way. =D

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Lunar Seal

But again, as I've said already, you can't state something you know nothing about, which clearly she doesn't.

Urgh. Read this. They didn't teach you about fallacies at school?

You have disputed the claim that humans are not homogenous by nature, without providing any evidence other than "I believe it is so". Now, I haven't done enough research on this subject to claim any view on the truth either way, so I'll just reiterate what she claims, hopefully clearing it up for you.

You seem to struggle with what she means with "by nature". She's talking about the human as an animal basically. As most of us know, we're more than animals and are able to suppress and control our natural urges (to some extend). But it doesn't take away the fact that we still have the natural urges that we are born with.

She's stating a general observation about human nature, which she even backed up with a statistic. You have done no such thing, instead using fallacies to try to get your way.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by Lunar Seal

It wasn't created to be a debate thread, but sometimes that's how things turn out.

I'm not going to turn this into a "she started it first" argument. I just don't agree entirely with what she's saying.

And that's why everyone has got their own opinion.
I'm not bothered with hers. We just don't have the same views or beliefs, that's all.

Then why have you been attacking her personally? Typing exercise? =D

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?