Is this a signal?

Originally Posted by gaming

Would it be strange if I ask her out on the same day? "Hey, I think you're pretty, want to go out?"

I wasn't sure at first, so I asked my girlfriend and she says that qualifies as a weird pickup line. That's not a good thing!

I think the problem here lies in the implied assumption that you think "you're pretty" is enough of a basis for a relationship. I know that that may be true for us guys, but girls are weird. They think you need things like common interests, personality, you name it.


In my opinion/experience, you should talk to her first and find out something about her other than her looks and the fact that she works at a clothes store. If there's anything at all that you have in common (live role playing, figure skating, croquett, etc.), invite her to go do that thing with her. It's much more likely to be effective.

If you insist on asking her out without any "background", at least have something to do. "Wanna go out?" is bad, bad, bad. Try "Hey, there's this awesome band Envy playing in a few days, and I got an extra ticket. Would you like to check 'em out? They really rock bla bla bla". That might work if she really likes you already.

EDIT: To answer the original question of the thread--I don't know. I don't think she dislikes you, at the very least.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by splur

Now, if she approached you and made it a point to find out when you were free, that's a signal.

Have you ever met a woman who did this? Because I sure haven't. And I think that goes a bit beyond a "signal".

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by splur

Yup, alot of times. Out of the blue the girl starts smalltalking with me and then it gets to the point when she asks when I'm free. Sometimes takes her more than one try, comes back another time. Usually happens at parties, clubs, malls and happened somewhat at my old retail job. Outta retail thank god, that job was hell.

It's never happened to you? I thought it was normal...

I've never met a pro-active girl like that, no. Even girls that obviously liked me never went so far as to directly ask me out, I have always had to be the one to make the first step. Maybe it's just the kind of girls I attract.

Out of curiosity, gaming, any news on this shop girl?

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by splur

You out of school or in university? It didn't really start happening until I got out of highschool. Girls were shy back then lol. I had to make the moves as well.

Hmm, you may be right, I'm just out of university now (that is: I heard I finished it this morning). I'm not looking anyway, though, since I'm quite content with my current relationship. It's just never happened to me that a girl made the first move (or even most of the other moves), and I do still believe that it's exceptional, even if you've experienced it often.

Good luck gaming, her saying "hi" is actually kind of a good sign since at least she remembers you. Considering how many people go to a clothes store every day, at least you made some impression. Your way of asking her out is at least cute, too. Did I understand correctly that you gave it to an employee to give it to her? I hope for your sake that they do so...

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