A Decision which Could Affect the Rest of My Life...

Doesn't seem like she's really that into you. If she really wanted to break up with her boyfriend then she certainly wouldn't wait almost a year to do it. And with you talking about being there to catch her it sounds like you're in love with her and she thinks you're a really good friend. I get the feeling you're the guy she comes to to complain about her boyfriend, who you only said was lazy and irresponsible. Doesn't sound like the greatest guy in the world, but you didn't mention any abuse or manipulation.

About her hinting at marriage or whatever, either you've misinterpreted something she said or, like rocketdog suggested, she's got some issues. If she does, it's not going to be anything you can fix. I get the impression that you want to save her from whatever it is you think is keeping her away from you and that might be warping your perception of the whole situation.

Either way, there's no way a relationship between you and her is going to work out, never mind marriage or kids. By all means stay friends with her, but don't keep waiting around for her to break up with her boyfriend. It's time to move on.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Ultima said you were an Asianophile, not a pedophile. Asiaphile is really the proper term, and certainly does have some negative connotations:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/defin...term=Asiaphile

I'm not saying you fit any of those descriptions, but it is pretty weird to only be into Asian women.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by rocketdog

Here's my problem. I meet girls, and some of them are so damn hot, good looking, cute, but I date them and then I realize... they will never hear sound the way I hear it. And call me an elitest, but when I realize that they will never hear music as beautifully as I hear it, I look find myself looking down on them, believing that my perspectives on life are of deeper and greater meaning than theirs.

You'll pardon me for not spiralling into a deep depression because you think I'm retarded. There's nothing strange about an Asian guy gravitating towards relationships with Asian women. That's your culture. Have a good time.

But for someone to supposedly be able to relate to a foreign culture better than his own is weird.

http://www.gamingforce.com/forums/jo...&entryid=20477

You can only connect with Asian women? Sounds to me like you're only into Asian women, then. You even said it yourself there, you don't get it. You know it's weird. I'm not saying it makes you creepy, but is it really healthy to idealize an entire race of people and their culture?

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by rocketdog

i expect that you are some sort of white punk then. people are afraid of what they don't understand, and if you're close minded to the point where you believe that you should stick to your own culture, then shame on the viv for even considering your thoughts have any value.

btw thats a low blow to try to drag my own ideals into this. stick to the topic.

And calling someone retarded is a lazy insult.

I didn't tell anyone to date only within their own culture. I'm saying that focusing so intensely on only one culture is probably unhealthy. Exploring other people's culture is great, but when it gets to the point that you can't relate to your own, that's when it gets weird. Or as others say, kind of creepy.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?