Help me please.......

Though, online dating works for some people, it seems your case wasn't experimented with to the fullest extent, Bomber. You've only text messaged with her, right? You need a whole lot more than that for an online relationship. Like phone calls, write letters, webcams, etc.

Simply just communicating alone by text messaging programs isn't enough. It doesn't tell the other person enough about you. You can tell them all you want how you broke your school's track record or won the national chess championships, but that proves nothing as they have nothing substantial enough to go by. At least with a phone call, the other will be able to reassure themselves that they are talking to someone of the correct gender. Perhaps it can tell them more of what they like about you. Maybe the way you sound, how you try to avoid using words such as, "uhh, well, hmm," frequently.

Webcam is great to use too, what better way to know that you can like a person better if you get to see how he/she looks? It'll give them an idea to judge whether you really are in your 20s or whether you're a 75 year old government representative trying to lull a 14 yr old girl into a freaky sex relationship. (laugh).

Writing a letter can be useful as well. It can show the person how artistic you are. Penmanship is almost everything to a relationship. You might have a cute capital R or write in cursive form very fluently. Your writing technique tells alot about your intellect. Proper spelling and grammar are just bonuses to "wow" a person.


















Anyway, as for your current crisis with your "first love," I feel you are just hurting yourself. You need to realize that at a young age, nothing is clearly defined yet but what your interests are. You can't say now that you'll be a successful astronaut 45 years from now. You don't know that. So, how can you be certain this thing you have for this girl is really love? Get over it and find a new person to drool on.

Jam it back in, in the dark.