...My best friend.

To me, a best friend is a person who you'll find yourself associating your life with most of the time. The person who you talk about the most random things to, person you ask to borrow money, person you get missed homework from, and of course the person who can return such acts of kindness/generosity/caring-ness. Your everyday utilitarian buddy. Just someone to rely on and spend more time with than other friends. Other friends may be just as reliable, but chances are that you don't see them often.

As for your friend, your complaint is tht she doesn't contribute much to the friendship. Are you telling us that she is just blatantly using you? Like, "Oh hey, I need to borrow some nice shoes for the day, can you lend me a pair? Got $20 I can borrow? Wanna study at your place?" That sort of dealings?

Or is there some sort of other problem going on that's more specific? For a friendship to fail and die out, it simply means one individual is being victimized. Meaning, one individual is often being used for the other's benefit. Scapegoat, resource, chores, etc....

You'll need to tell us more of your problem if we're to really help you out.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Sounds like your best friend is just plainly an idiot, or a highly emotional person. Break off all communication because of a bad period? What the hell does her bad period have to do with you? It's like saying, "Oh, I lost 200,000 dollars at the casino tonight. BAD WINNING STREAK! TIME TO ISOLATE MYSELF FROM THE WORLD!"

Absoulte bullshit. If she's making excuses to get around talking about these things, then she probably doesn't really think highly of you. So your mom dies, why doesn't it matter, even to the point of a single tear drop, to her? She obviously doesn't want to talk to you about it. Maybe she was afraid of activating any deep emotional pains you might of had and rather not mingle with the idea. Probably afraid of you getting mad.

Plus, she has every reason not to attend your mom's funeral. Unless your mom had some kind of deep bonding relationship with your friend. Such as, the mom who always gave your friend a ride to school when her mom was too busy. Etc, even if it is a minor event of caring, so long as it was done so often to form that bond/link.

Other than that, your mom's funeral is really something you should be worrying about. Dragging others with you because of a relationship they share with you is pretty darn selfish. "Hey, you're my friend (of some degree), you didn't support my fight vs emotional pains by not comming!" If I had a dentist appointment planned, or even wanted to plan one, I'd of definately skipped such an invitation too.

I'm not saying these things to an exactness. This is simply what it looks like to me. You expect too much of this best friend. Get a hint, they're not looking to do the same for you. You're basically a resource tree, want over need.

Also, there's the possibility that your friend may of been as busy or emotionally unstable as she claims. So, if these are the first set of events you're encountering of such action and behavior, you may want to do some more observing and studying. Keep track of what else she does.

There's nowhere I can't reach.