I can't be alone in this.

I don't have a problem with passive people. But the only way I can think of to cope, or deal, with such people is to basically be proactive about it. You want something? Go get it.

In my lifetime so far, I have dealt with my share of passive individuals. They don't care what goes on, they don't care if their toasted bagel came out deformed and that they've just spreaded cream cheese with a little jam, accidentially mixed into the cream. They don't care if the group decides to go eat at McDonalds that's 3 blocks away. when they can instead go to Burger King that's 1 building away.

Although, after typing that, one way you could possibly get a passive individual to unwind is to condition them. If you like to go and eat at Subway for some 6-inch sandwich, keep going there everyday. I suspect the passive individual who tags along may eventually break. His/her wants and desires come out and show their true colors. "Not today, I wanna go and eat at Wendy's."

Instead of going to the usual table hang-out place, that's nearby, drag them to a seating area that's further away. Something of the like that'll potentially get them to snap back into reality.

So, someone like Lurker may still hate them now, or forever, but if you like someone and really want them to change, give them the chance to do it. Set them up.

I'm just as interested in trying out my theory of breaking passive people. So, I shall experiment with some people I know at college. I'll clue in results at the end of the week. (Assuming it won't take so long to break them.) I'm always interested in learning how certain people work. What makes them tick, what can motivate them better than money. Stuff like that. Call it a psychological interest, or some sick obsession to stalk people, but the day you do something unfavorable unknowingly, by another individual, is the day you get "owned." (For whatever n-th time.)

Jam it back in, in the dark.