The effect of College on Friendships

:biggrin: okay...so i finished my first year of college. But now, it seems all the friends I made in high school (I mean the close ones) seem farther away from me now (therefore not so close anymore). I really don't know what to say ' cause these are the same people who used to say best friends forever and have blood pacts and what not. I mean, it hurt for a little bit, finding out that I was basically just something to be cherished when needed and then thrown away once I became useless, but i got over that. The point is that I just wanted to find at least one other person who has experienced that; their entire inner circle of confidantes just crumbling away from them.

P.s. Don't get me wrong, part of this is my fault ( I just can't figure out which part yet). It's a little hard to believe that I'm the only one feeling like this right now and I'm just asking if this is a normal part of life people just have to go through and live with...or have i just been sodomized by my own "friends"

Grrr

Jam it back in, in the dark.

see I've been moving since I was a little kid (country to country wise) so my value of friendship was probably superficial until i got to high school after i moved at the start of freshman year. It just sux even more because i put so much work and love and energy into THIS friendship that i just can't seem to let it fail and just let it go.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Hahah. Well all your points are valid and all but I don't want to fail at this (I'm just too asian I guess). I still have some hope left because i talked to a few of them yesterday and it seems to THEM that I was the one that seemed to want to just break everything off (a thought which blows my mind as to why they would think that when they're the ones that go off by themselves--i mean it gets kinda lonely when during the rare times we do hang out they're talking and I don't know what the hell they're talking about or they have their new inside jokes that i don't get) Sigh. I don't know. Whatever I'm just really tired now.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

I'm assuming that most of you must have dormed, correct? Usually with that you get to spend A HELLUVA lot of time with other people. Most of my friends dorm and it's probably the big reason for all of this. But since I don't dorm (Rutgers University is basically my backyard) i still feel like I'm in high school, driving to and from school, making only "schoolmate" type friends and not the true bonding experience other people seem to enjoy.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

HAhahah. okay now that i've gotten some perspective on the situation i really don't feel so bad. Really, I just believed that I was the only one getting screwed and it was starting to piss me off. Thank you so much. :3

I was speaking idiomatically.

umm...yeah. I think it's over. Thanks for the advice but it couldn't work out....::sigh::...Now:biggrin: on to better and brighter things (and people) ...I guess.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

wellllll...though I do like the closeness of high school classes, I also like the certain dignified aloofness of college.

for example, I go to rutgers and you need a bus to get anywhere on campus. I meet very interesting people on the bus. In college, I've found people to be quite friendly and open. We just start speaking about the most random things. We act liike friends, and people around us will think we are friends and once I get off the bus, we say good bye and prolly never meet ever again. No emotional connection needed.

In high school, I only talked to my close circle...and everyone was either with us...or they were "them". There were always cliques and set social lines you could not pass.

I don't know...it's just a breath of fresh air.

FELIPE NO

I've got to say though that once it happens it doesn't really seem all that bad. College kinda broadens your horizons and makes you realize that there are 6 billion people on the planet who can be your friend if you just take the time. If the friendships were meant to last, they would; otherwise, there is an entire planet of homo sapiens to choose from.

Note: Rutgers starts in two weeks and i can't wait YEAH!!

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?