I suck at dealing with girls...

Originally Posted by DarkMageOzzie

But seriously, how do you approach a situation like this? I mean it's not like she's going to announce to the world when she's finally ready to start dating again. The last time a girl I liked broke up with her boyfriend, she kept saying she wasn't over him for months. Then oneday, BAM! She had a new boyfriend.

Thats the problem with women, man. They do that kind of crap for whatever reason. Most of them won't date co-workers and/or will just say that to distract you and let you think they aren't ready yet and will secretly go find someone else anyway. WHY they can't just tell you straight up whether they like you or not, I'll never understand. But they won't.

Keep being nice to her. I mean you've got no reason not to. Maybe throw it out there that if she wants to do something one day after work or something you can go hang out somewhere(preferably in public, if she asks where you'd hang out). Just let her know it's not really a date. Just having fun. Invite some other people you both know along as well, so it doesn't seem like a date. That might make it easier for her to consider if shes still not ready for a date. There's really no right way to do this. If you ask her out early, she stop talking to you all together and lump you in with all the other guys that asked her out. If you ask her too late, she'll have already found someone else. I can't help you with WHEN to ask, just be careful and be as sure as you can shes interested.

I caution you though, this is dangerous territory you walk in, dude. This has the potential to easily turn against you and result in the "I just want to be friends" bullshit line that girls like to pull...the six most horrible words ANY guy will ever hear. Tread lightly because once you hear that crap spew from any womans mouth, you're done. Might as well find a new girl to talk too because you'll never be anything more then a friend to her.

Good luck, dude.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Oh, you have every right to be as picky as you want. Hell it worked out for me. It's a good way of weeding out the annoying girls that you can't stand.
Trust me, I've dated girls before that I have nothing in common with and it's damn obnoxious because neither one of you can agree on anything. Opposites DO NOT attract.

There's nowhere I can't reach.