Your Relationship with your Parents

i don't really have a relationship at all with my parents, it just consists of phonecalls a few times a week now that i've moved away to university and when i'm at home, it's just to tell them i'm going out or them asking if i need money.

Originally Posted by eriol

They never come to student concerts which I participated on, the reason is simply because they dont treat me as child, rather because of economic investment. That's what I thought from hourless lectures of my mother keep telling to become rich rich rich so that she will have happy living in her old day (it's common philosophy in chinese family).

i have the same problem, been told so many times that i'm just a waste of money (despite the fact that my education so far has cost about £70000 GBP was purely their fault, they wanted the fame of having a daughter at a well known private school). in my entire life, only my mum has once attended a concert i was in and that was when my dad and sister had gone back to hong kong for my grandad's funeral. they base my worth solely on academic achievements and so no 'love' was lavished on me in the sense a child would understand; i was made to have private tutuition and take exams since i was 2, made to learn the violin because it's common chinese belief that knowing a musical instrument makes your child instantly smarter, expect to be able to take care of myself while they worked downstairs etc. being a girl also meant that as i grew up at home, i was unable to socialise with people after school hours even when i turned legally an adult.

but the relationship has improved recently between my mother and i since i've moved out, we talk a bit more, but i still don't divulge anything about me other than what i've been eating and how my piano lessons are going. i barely talk to my dad because he just annoys the hell out of me and just keeps offering more pocket money thinking that'll solve the problem.

Jam it back in, in the dark.