To marry or not to marry

Originally Posted by Zephyrin

Somebody back me up here. This is one of the worst ideas I've ever heard of.

YUP.

I'm in the "marriage is a silly idea" category. If you love a person, no legal or religious bond will change anything but your tax returns.

Things get trickier when you want to have kids - at which point, I would actually cave and say "yea, maybe we ought to get married now" if only for the legal and health benefits. I wouldn't do it for a fabricated "family unit" though. I don't know a lot about the kid situation though. All I know is that whether or not I am married to the father of my children, my children should have their father in their life.

I watch people all around me get married and I often wonder what they're thinking.

To me, marriage is just a silly ritual people go through to somehow prove to society that they're taken. I'm not a religious person, and I can understand how marriage means more to other people.

I guess I would hope that *if* I ever get married, I'm doing it for the right reasons. I would expect virtually nothing to change in my relationship, though.

As of right now, I'm in a long-term committed relationship. We're pretty much married, minus the marriage thing and a nice rock on my hand. I don't see why I should need to complicate matters by getting married. I don't need a stupid ceremony to tell the world that I love the man I am with.

I also like the idea that if in the long run my partner and I decide that we're not growing together, things are getting too hard to deal with, or shit isn't healthy in the relationship, we can just part ways. No expensive divorce, no lawyers, no paperwork. Just call it quits, divide up belongings (which is not always easy), and go our separate ways.

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by samari

Agreed, but probably for a different reasoning, since same-sex marriage is probably still a long ways away from being "ok".

It's "ok" here in Massachusetts. Homofags delight in getting their own licenses to wed here.

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