Will I get expelled from University?

To be honest, I don't agree with Divest.

In being there for her, it means you hold yourself to your own obligations. It takes a bigger man to not ignore his mistake - I assume you think that this was a mistake, as I presume she got an abortion...?

Some people may disagree with this opinion, but I think you show a tendency to live up to your mistakes and obligations, and try to rectify them, as evidence with this girl from back home. (On a more personal note, kudos to you for being there for her)

I really hope it works out, by the way.

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Originally Posted by kinkymagic

She was with her boyfriend, but he's on the other side of the country at the moment and we were both drunk, plus I'm an idiot. She doesn't really have many trusted friends apart from me. I was aware that it might not be mine and if she had decided to keep it I would have gotten a paternity test before proposing, but still I'm not going to let one of my closest friends go for a surgical procedure that can be a very distressing thing (she's not the most emotionally stable person at the best of times) and then deal with it on her own. I would say that all in all I missed about three weeks of university due to these events, the main reason I have to go to the committee is because I missed a meeting with my tutor to explain my absences (computer troubles). I am aware how badly I have handled the situation.

Explain that all to the board, and maybe it will count in your benefit.

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Thanks for the support, although if I were a decent guy I wouldn't have had unprotected sex with a drunk girl who is in a relationship.

UGH. DUMBASS. ;_;

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As far as I am concerned the blame for what happened should be leveled squarely at me. My main plan for the committee is to tell them that I am aware that my attendance has not been satisfactory this term and that I am sorry, but my absences were due to a one-off personal problem that I would be prepared to explain if they wish.

Be sure to have some proof - just in case. I've never been in the situation, and I don't know how university inquiries go. Myself, out of ignorance, would treat it like a court case. Couldn't hurt. ^_^ (Responsibility and all that)

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It was a mistake, however I am pro-choice and so I told her that what ever she chose to do I would support her 100%. Thankfully she chose to get an abortion because I really don't feel that I would be an adequate father.

Was she having unprotected sex with her boyfriend too?

Man, what a situation you're in. That must certainly be an emotionally toll on you, whether or not you were the father.

I know this is kind of off-topic, but I'm curious: How did her current boyfriend (or then boyfriend?) react? Does he even know??

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Originally Posted by kinkymagic

Any ideas as to what I could bring?

Proof of the abortion (to give a time-frame at the very least), and maybe a certified, written account from the girl?

Maybe medical records? Just to show you're not making this shit up, you know? Because, I mean, it sounds like it could be made up. Not that I am saying you did make it up. But you can see how the administration could think that.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by knkwzrd

I'm genuinely curious here, how many people have attendance taken in their university classes? I have never had attendance taken at a university class. The profs generally don't care if you show up as long as you get the assignments in and do fine on the tests.

Each time (lols) I went to university, I was permitted no more than 3 absences per semester in each class. Some profs were more lenient, but I'd say maximum absences = 7 or 8 per semester.

(Mine kept track in almost every class)

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