Don't know what to do.

Zeph. Pie. Loserhead. You need to get your shit together, get your wife to get her shit together, put your noses to the grindstone and bust your asses.

School, despite what all these fine folks are saying, ain't no guarantee to get you out of Idaho, an unhappy marriage, or a path to gold and riches. It's an avenue you should consider after you fix what's wrong presently.

I know some cats are going to come down on me like flies on shit for saying that, but can you afford MORE debt now? Your wife wants to go back I know - to get into the position she was in back in Vegas. Sadly, I guess she needs to get certification or some classes up there in Potato Land of Nothing before she can. She wants to go to class again, and you want to go to class again - but right now, are you in the position for more loans?

You're a team now, and you both should be pulling as much weight as possible. Lay down your priorities.

Having spoken with you MULTIPLE times about these collective problems, I think you'll be happier at work if you're happier at home, first. This is just MY perception, and I don't know how you feel about this. You're living with your folks in a tiny little place, all getting on each other's nerves all the time, I know. BUT. This is the best time to shut up and put out.

Take this time you have living with your folks to save your goddamn money. Jenn, this means you too. I know you're going to read this. You both know that you're living ALMOST expense-free.

If you guys really want to start improving your situation, start cutting back on the "nice to haves." Stick to only "need to have," as in food, debt payments, insurance payments on vehicles - whatever. Once and a while, it's no big harm to go out, throw back a few beers with some pals and enjoy a steak dinner. You should actually DO this as to relieve yourselves of your stresses - and YES, you will be stressed.

But you really, really, really need to start kicking it into high gear. I know you both want out of where you are now. It's killing you both INDIVIDUALLY and in your relationship with each other.

You need to listen to each other, you need to BOTH calm down with the defense and hear each other out.

I'm not an expert, but I hope to lend some outside perspective into what seems to be a very confused situation. You've both got to suck it up, work it off, and get your funds up so you can get the fuck out of there. No better time than now.

If this means working at a shitty factory on the night shift - DEAL WITH IT. This is life. Work isn't always fun. If it was, they wouldn't need to pay you. Keep your goals in mind and drive it home. Jenn, you should keep your head down when he goes to work. I know it hurts that you can't always be with him, and you miss him when he's gone - but what's important right now? Throw the saddle on the pony and RIDE IT.

Zeph, you're trained to be a mechanic, and I know there just isn't a hell of a lot of work around there for you. This is no fault of your own. Stick to whatever job you can get for now. Focus on your wife and your bank account. Times will get better, I swear.

(And I'll lend a hand whenever you ask me to. You know I've always tried to give and help whenever I can - nothing has changed. Just ask. Zeph, you're one of my closer friends - I want you to know that the door is always open. Jenn, of course, you too.)

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Avalokiteshvara

Sass is right about everything but the booze.

Hey, you know I don't think "beer" falls under the department of "must have."

But neither of them are machines. They've got to find a happy place once and a while, and I think they both enjoy chillin' with some beer.

(Just please please please don't pay over $3 for one beer.)

There's nowhere I can't reach.