how do you know if you really love someone?

If you have to ask, you're probably not in love. That's my opinion, anyways.

After a while with the same person, some people get bored and start to wonder. I've been in that boat before, and hey - no harm in it.

The ":fire:" is a hard thing to keep going after being in a relationship with someone after so many years.

Maybe you should try spending a weekend away with your partner and see if you can get a fire going again.

Or maybe, you've just gotten over the lust or infatuation you had with your partner.

Examine your emotions well, and try to deduce what you're feeling. Maybe discuss it with your partner if you get very confused.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Uh, I think both Alice and I are agreeing that the ":fire:" emotion you described does not stick around forever.

Love is not :fire:. It's love. You can fall out of love with a person, sure.

What I am saying is that if you have to ask "how do you know when you really love someone," you're probably not in love. You were probably infatuated or whatever.

But then, only you can gauge whether or not you love your partner. Alice makes a good point - the passion and the fire you feel at first never sticks around forever.

You can always try to re-kindle it, though. Just for a short time to remind yourself of how it feels.

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Originally Posted by Roan

Oh I meant the part where the fire fades so since I believe that all couples are gonna realize this they are bound to ask my question... So I dont think it means they're probably not in love all that time.

No, you're right. I was only trying to encourage some self reflection in the way of emotions.

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This is probably corny but Im serious, What is love? Is it not a feeling? Or is it a choice? Don't feelings and decisions change?

I think each person feels love in their own way, but it's an emotional response. And yea, of course love can change or die.

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Originally Posted by Monkey King

I think it's kind of dangerous to tell people that love is "just something you feel".

When you break it down and look it at, what else is it? What defines humanity?

Love is an emotion. An intense and complicated emotion, but an emotion nontheless.

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