Thoughts on Marriage

Spawning from the eHarmony thread, I was wondering how many GFFers take marriage seriously?

Do you do it for religious reasons? Do you do it only when you love someone? Is there more to getting married than "just loving someone?" Do you think marriage is taken too lightly these days? Or maybe too heavily? Do you plan on getting married, or is living in sin good enough for you?

What are you views on marriage?

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Lady Miyomi

Of course marriage is taken lightly these days. Why do you think people are so quick to divorce each other? I would get married (again for the last time) because I loved the person. I would prefer to get to know the person longer than say two years so we won't be running to Divorce Court.

I get the impression you've been married before, Miyomi? (If yes, I NEVER knew! =o )

How long do you think it takes to really know the person you're going to marry? I mean, 2 years sounds like a long time, but I guess in reality its not.

Do you ever get to know a person 100%?

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Monkey King

Somebody get Lurker in here. I had a big argument with her a while back over the issue of spousal abuse. She seemed to think it was impractical to expect someone to spend a long period of time getting to know someone, to glean out any potential wife-beating tendancies before rushing off to the altar.

What? Seriously?

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You might not be able to learn everything about someone just through dating, but you really have to give the relationship time to settle in, and the infatuation to wear off so you can appraise the situation objectively. Love tends to delude people into thinking marriage somehow changes things.

They say that living with a person before getting married is one of the great tests of any relationship.

The infatuation period wears off really quick when you have to live together, deal with each other's annoying habits, clean up after each other, work with each other schedules, WHILE being exposed to one another ofr prolonged periods of time, paying the bills together, chosing options for the HOME together - there are so many factors to play with when you live together, it seems like it WOULD be a great test.

And yea, I am of the opinion that marriage changes very little but your tax return. ^_^

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.