Executive Decisions

Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

Once again, russ nails it. This is your parents' house to do with as they please. When you grow up, move out and start supporting yourself, your home will be your castle and you can do whatever you want. Until then, just be thankful you have parents who provide for you.

As far as the kitchen goes, in most homes that's sort of the woman's domain. I can tell you that I don't ask a damn soul before I make changes in my kitchen, since I'm the one who does all the cooking and a lot of the cleaning.

Although I do think that your dad should have a say in matters, unless they have some sort of understanding between the two of them that she makes all the decisions about household matters.

I agree with Russ and Alice and whomever else said something similar.

Your parents pay the bills. Unless you're contributing, then you don't really get a say. I know it can be a real pisser sometimes - I've been there too. I am sure we all were at points. Especially when you want the frilly prom dress or the fancy new car and the new stove is more important.

If you can get a job and contribute financially to the household, you should get a say. But as far as your mother being the head of the household - its her house. You're her son and you can give your input, but she doesn't have to listen to it.

Don't worry. You'll get your own place someday and you can do with it what you want! But until you're on your own, and you're living with your folks, its one of the many sacrifices to be made.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Watts

Yeah, because it's not like he/she's actually apart of the family... right?

Uh. No one is denying that. But the kids don't really get a say on the finances. Since, you know, they have no idea.

Parents are parents for a reason.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Watts

I don't consider sixteen+ years old a kid. That's about the time you should be learning to be a responsible adult, and treated as such.

I also think that the original poster has a pretty good idea about things that could be done that should be shared with his/her parents.

You're still a kid, aren't you.

I said the same fucking thing when I was 16. By the way, 16 IS a kid. LEGALLY. You can't sign a motherfucking contract when you're 16. You are not legally responsible for SHIT. Thats why theres JUVENILE court. Thats why your parents are responsible for your ACTIONS until you're 18.

You're an adult when you turn 18, and EVEN THEN, you're not the hot shot you think you are.

Being older now, I know I wouldn't want my fucking kids telling me what to do with the family money when they don't even have a job or they aren't contributing at fucking all. Get a job, contribute.

Damnit, Alice beats me to the punch AGAIN.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Watts

Just what do you think a family is anyway? If anybody in a family has a idea for the family you should be "allowed" to make it known to everyone in the family. Does that mean you'll get your own way? No. Does that mean an additional viewpoint might be put under consideration? I surely hope so.

You really think decisions should be left up to the kids in a family? Or that they should have an equal say as the parents?

I am AFRAID of what your kids will turn out like.

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Not even close. Unlike your parents, my parents could trust me to make my own decisions at that age.

I'm glad your parents left you to fend for yourself at age 16. Those are awesome parents, dude!

Originally Posted by Watts

At sixteen you're allowed to get a driver's license that puts YOUR LIFE in danger and everybody else's life in danger on the road. I hope your parents thought you were enough of an adult to handle that. Otherwise you had no place behind the wheel.

YEA, WOW, A LICENSE! AND you can fight a war!

But you can't legally sign a contract. You can't buy anything without a cosigner. You can't do SHIT, kid. If you'd like to argue this with me FURTHER about the things you can and cant do as a LEGAL MINOR, I have years and years or experience with it.

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Just because your maturity was retarded doesn't mean mine has to be either.

Believe me, kid. I learned a HELL of a lot more than any 16 year old should EVER learn by the time I got there.

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Originally Posted by Watts

No, I just said that it should be put under consideration. Try reading everything.

I did. You seem to think that kids in a family have a say about finances.

Which is laughable. Unless, like I SAID, they contribute.

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When did I ever say that?

You made it pretty clear you could "make your own decisions" at age 16. Which is ALSO laughable beyond comprehension.

Maybe you got to chose what color underwear you got to wear on the bus ride to sophomore English class?

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by Acro-nym

Maybe we like the dish sizes we have. Maybe we like a gas stove instead of an electric one. They confide in us for other things, like where to go on vacation or what kind of computer to buy. So why should these things be different? Why don't we get a say?

Because its their money, essentially.

I don't see why you'd give a fuck about the dishes, so long as they're there.

And Russ is absolutely right about the stove. Why do you doubt your parents so much? Are you that emotionally attached to these things? Do you really think they're doing shit for no good reason?

Relax. Worry about your life and not about your parents' choices in dishware.

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