I found a girl - there is a god! Or not?

Originally Posted by rocketdog

Alright so I just met this girl. And I really like her. And yes, you bastards, she is a music talent

Anyway my problem is as follows. I love spending time with her but after further discussion with her I've recently discovered she kind of goes through guys like cake. The longest she's been without a boyfriend is 3 weeks according to her. This was a huge turn off.

Which makes me wonder. I FEEL like she genuinley likes me, but with a turnover rate like that, this girl is probably used to emotional attachment, detachment, and can't think very beyond a relationship just because she "likes the company". She even speaks of her "exs" with no problem, no change in expression, as if it doesn't bother her whatsoever - cold even.

Other characteristics of her:
+ very outgoing
+ always similing
+ a bit immature
+ divorced parents
+ troubled family

These characteristics seem to me like "temporarily playmate" anyways.

She doesn't strike me (from what little I read) as a person who is looking for a longterm thing. She's trying her hand with men - which is cool. Just don't expect a girl like this to settle too easily.

If you're looking for something serious, I would say she's not serious material just based on what you're relaying.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by rocketdog

My mind is a little more calm now, and I've only known her for 1 week now. Despite the fact we've been cuddling almost every night and sleeping together (no bases broken) I'm going to tread softly on this one and TAKE MY TIME.

Cuddling, sleeping together, and having little-to-no-intimate contact (or romantic) only encourages cuddle-buddying and "I only want to be your friend" behavior.

While I understand you want to take your time, don't get TOO comfy. Just because you do these things does not guarantee your success. In fact, you're probably giving her exactly what she wants. =/

fucking cuddle whores UGH.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by LeHah

Oh god, this is not going to go over well.

Women smell that shit from afar. Mice don't enter a house if they smell a cat, girls (mind you - girls, not SLUTS) won't go near you if you have that thought in your head.

Just let it happen, man. Don't set out to DO SOMETHING today. She's going to sense theres an ulterior motive, be it "Ill try to kiss her" or "Im gonna whip it out".

I disagree. I am betting she'll let it happen - in an awkward way. She likes the spotlight, this one. Which is fine, but I have a feeling she may be intentionally playing with our friend rocketdog. And thats not very nice. But I could be wrong - she just may enjoy being LIKED a whole lot. =/

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by rocketdog

Well, things were going nice... Lot of lust between us for a few days - we almost had sex...

Then I asked her to date me (cause she was still kind of hooking up with her ex I wanted her to myself, you know)

And she inverted. Went cold, passion went dry.

Fuckin' bitch! Knew that was coming. God damnit.

You got played, son.

Do you really think you're going to be able to maintain a relationship with this girl. Why don't you pay heed to what everyone is telling you?

Seriously. This girl neither IS relationship material nor WANTS to be relationship material. Unless you want a silly little fling (which is fine too), you're not getting much out of her. Don't say you weren't warned. =/

And no offense, but it doesn't sound like she's got all her marbles, either.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?