life issues and a new boyfriend, unsupportive mother

Yuki Chan, you have an issue. A serious issue. And it's not your mother.

You have a co-dependency problem. You need to learn to stand on your own two feet before getting into a relationship. In other words, you need to learn how to be by yourself before you need to "be with someone."

Before I start jumping to conclusions though, how old are you?

Sounds like your mother won't do well in accepting your lifestyle right now. You're best to just stop listening to her. You know who you are, obviously. You have your own beliefs and you are your own person with your own life views. Her nagging and lecturing you will only further the gap between you.

You need to explain this to her. If she can't accept it, cut the ties and move on. You can't live life for your mother, compromising yourself.

But seriously. Considering being single for a while. Not because of your mother or anything, but for your own strength. "NEEDING" to be in a relationship is very, very unhealthy.

Jam it back in, in the dark.