EDIT: Sorry, Devo. I didn't realize it was you, though I should have guessed. SIGH. ;_;
Third edit: Age 25. Fulltime student, fulltime employment. In a relationship.
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Originally Posted by RAZGRIZ-2
How are girls not shallow? The correct answer is all people are shallow on some level. It's not gender biased. Get over yourself.
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Whoa, whoa, whoa. At the risk of lurker and Devo coming in here and screaming at me, it's generally pretty well known that women are more conscious of their physical appeal than men are.
Why would women be more conscious of their physical appeal? Well, thats pretty much the thing that can be argued - is it what they're trying to attract (and the competition thereof), or is it for themselves - just to look beautiful?
I think you're looking too deeply into what DWA said.
Girls are shallow too - for different reasons.
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Do you read what you post? Do you want to live in some idealic paradise where everyone only sees the inner beauty of someone's personality and none of the flaws? Even if a male notices you, and you go out, there is no guarantee of a smooth ride.
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On a level - I agree with her. This is coming from a reasonably heavy-set woman who is not considered terribly attractive. I once had this BEAUTIFUL friend - absolutely devastatingly BEAUTIFUL - who said she was jealous of me. "Men have to like to you for whats inside you, not whats outside."
Whether or not women are interpreting the message that men send correctly, it APPEARS that men do pass up a great opportunity based on looks alone. "She's not cute enough" or "not up to my
physical standards," you see. That can be misconstrued as "shallow" by some - and to a degree it is. But you can't blame a man for BEING a man. He is interested in the goods he sees laid before him. Unfortunately, he is not that excellent at seeing much else sometimes. (Examples in Angst.)
You may be able to argue it,
Enceph (I THINK you're Enceph. Can never tell with these CHANGE YOUR NAME weeks), DEVO, but I am sure you can see what she's saying. Men will dismiss a woman based on her looks more often than not.
Jam it back in, in the dark.
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