Your Relationship with your Parents

Old and young, stupid and intelligent, we all have parents.

How is your relationship with the people who brought you into the world? Are you very close to them? Do you confide in them? Have you grown away from them? Do you resent them for something?

I have a bizarre relationship with my mother and father. They've been divorced since I was 8 or so, and there was a lot of turbulence involved with said divorce.

I love both my mother and father dearly, but I have a love/hate relationship with my father. We're a lot alike, and we butt heads more often than necessary.

When I was a teenager, I really held something against him. But these days, we live peacefully (most of the time) and appreciate each others' presence.

How do you get along with your folks?

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Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

I love my parents, but depriving your children of simple things like time and attention really have a lasting effect. My parents are good people and I respect and love them a lot, but I wish I had had a different childhood...one more like my friend had.

I agree entirely. I think if you're going to produce some offspring, you should be absolutely sure that you're going to be able to provide them time and attention that ALL CHILDREN need.

It seems like so many people plop their kids down in front of a television set and let that babysit them. I understand that its really HARD to raise kids in todays day and age where the cost of living requires two parents to work - but if you're going to reproduce, you should ensure that your kids will have enough of your attention and guidance to help them with their growth.

Not to knock anyone's parents, of course. We're all human and we all fuck up. But it just seems to me like so many people in the world today don't give a shit.

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Originally Posted by Fyodor D.

Unfortunately as well, there was not a whole lot of explicit displays of affection in our family, so I seem to have trouble doing the same with others.

Yea, I grew up like this too. Even today, I can not for the LIFE OF ME tell my sister "I love you."

Her ex-boyfriend (and a good friend of mine) once made fun of the two of us, telling us how mentally unhealthy we are. "You both want to say it to each other, but neither of you ever do."

If I was forced to for whatever reason, I would break down crying for hours. And I have no idea why.

My father tells us he loves us from time to time, but usually in the casual hanging-up-the-phone kind of way. He never really does anything but assault our personalities - which probably explains why I am such a bitter, hostile, distrustful person.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by LeHah

No one on either side of my family likes my mom's boyfriend. Before my grandfather died, it was the only subject that really bothered him any. Once or twice, he'd swear up and down that if Ed did anything (throw me out of the house, etc) he'd beat the life out of him. Which was both amusing and scary - imagine comedian Jonathan Winters cleaning a 1874 Sharps Buffalo Rifle.

Out of sympathizing purposes, could you tell us why you don't like him? Do you think your mother is happy with him? Is he very overbearing?

Why do YOU dislike him? Has your mother been with a nice guy since the divorce?

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Originally Posted by LeHah

I don't play cards like that. If I'm going to cry about emotional duress because my mom is dating some asshole, I might as well sue Spain for a billion dollars because they raped my Irish ancestors.

I really don't know how close you are to your Ma - depending on how close, and how much you care, there are ways to get him out of the house. Sabotage the relationship, if you get my gist.

But if she's happy, fuck. Thats a hard pill to swallow, man. I can't imagine a woman being too happy in those kinds of circumstances - but if ever she wants out, and she feels kind of helpless, you have options to help her. ^_^

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by LeHah

Fuck that. I'd just burn the house down. (But now I can't because of the kitty)

PLEASE do not burn the kitty. ;_;

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I told her many years ago that if she married him, I'd disown her outright and never talk to her again. She's never mentioned the idea to me for probably a decade now.

Man, welcome to MY world. I am glad I'm not the only asshole out there who throws ultimatums at my parents.

My mother fends for herself pretty well. But my father is a complete DIPSHIT when it comes to women. I've been working on him about Cheryl for about 3 weeks now. I've finally made some progress.

See, he doesn't endure abuse so much as he does women trying to bleed him of everything he has. And I will be fucked by a chainsaw if he EVER marries this bitch.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?