I can't be alone in this.

Originally Posted by a lurker

I don't like passive people, either as friends or as a boyfriend. I used to tolerate it but I really don't anymore.

Does anyone here honestly prefer passive people? And as a bonus question, are you creepy and controlling, or a white knight in desperate need for your very own damsel in distress?

I don't like overly passive people who can't help themselves. I like to be needed, but not to the point where I am needed CONSTANTLY.

I like a happy give-and-take kind of friendship/relationship, but I don't ALWAYS want to be the leader. Although I do enjoy it most the time, it gets exhausting being in charge all the time, making decisions for everyone, pulling the plan together.

Unfortunately, I've always fell naturally into that role - and if I don't, I don't enjoy being in the position that doesn't offer leader benefits.

But yea, I don't like people who can't form a solid opinion or has no official say. I like people to soeak up for themselves.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Fyodor D.

Actually, I have a question for everyone: Is there a difference, in your book, between someone who is apathetic and someone who is passive?

Yes.

Apathetic means you're a lazy jackass who doesn't care to form his own opinion. (I know thats harsh. Sorry. I am bitter.)

Passive means you're just not feeling strong or confident enough to get yourself out there, be heard, and live with the consequences. You probably DO care about whats going on, but you're not confident enough to say something.

Passive is better than apathetic, in my eyes.

How ya doing, buddy?