I suck at dealing with girls...

She shut you out. You're not getting anywhere with her.

She's not "ready" right now for you or the other 10 men in line.

You wonder why she says she doesn't "want to date anyone," and then the next day she has a boyfriend? It's because she doesn't want to date you.

Sorry to sound harsh about it. =/

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by christinajon

If you read any of the other threads here, you'll see that this means you're in the "friend zone" and you won't ever get to date her. And, trust me, she won't be ready to date until she meets someone she wants to date - which she obviously hasn't yet.

Bingo.

"Telling you her problems" is not a way to get into the relationship door. Chances are, you'll always be viewed as "a friend." You know how women are.

Also, sorry I misunderstood what you were saying.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by DarkMageOzzie

That's easy to say, but the thing is, I like her specifically. I don't normally care that I don't have a girlfriend, unless there is someone in particular I like. I don't go out looking for girls, because normally I wouldn't care. If I have no chance with her, I'll just go back to not caring.

I'm not the kind of person who can stomach going to bars and whatnot and trying to sort through all the bimbos to find a girl that I consider worth my time. If I wanted to have a girlfriend really bad, I could probably go get one. But I want a girl that I actually ya know... like.

Honestly, why do people always tell me to go look for someone, when most people that end up together, it happens out of basicly pure luck rather then the fact that either person was looking for someone.

Good LORD are you whiny.

Everyone is telling you the same thing. I don't know why you're going to sit here and fight it.

If you don't believe any of us (which no one can blame you for because internet), go try asking her. See what happens. Be sure to report back!

So you like her. Big deal. This is the here and now, and why waste your efforts trying to score a person who doesn't feel the same about you?

But again, I think the only way you're going to get what we're trying to tell you is if you ask her out. Y'never know - we could all be completely wrong!

As far as the "o god i hate bars how do i meet people," you need to put yourself out there a little and take some risks. I've heard SO MANY whiny children say this shit. I'm not much of an attractive person, and I dislike bars as well, but I seem to do well for myself as far as relationships go.

And I've never once been on an actual date.

Maybe your approach is wrong. I'd say "dating people you work with" is not only a bad approach, but a recipe for disaster.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Brent

Well, yeah, but you're dating a guy you met on the internet, aren't you?

Had no intention of dating him from what I saw on the internet. Frankly, I hated who he was here. (He still irks me from time to time on the forums)

And then, we met at a meet and we were both completely different. And hung out after the meet. That's when shit went down.

I had no intention of dating him until I actually met him. I don't know if that counts.

DarkMage, a lot of people don't use bars as a genuine dating generator. I'd advise against it, myself - but plenty would disagree with me. You should try getting into stuff locally or whatever.

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