Dating people who have no friends

Originally Posted by Ann

I'm new, and I thought that I would respond to this thread.. by giving a perspective of someone who doesn't have any friends.

That's right.. I'm Ann, and at this time in my life, I'm officially friendless (and I also have the guts to admit it).

I also have a good paying job, and I have travelled the world completely on my own (which, apparently, is a brave thing to do ), and I have enjoyed it thoroughly. I don't sit around wishing for friends, but have a whole bunch of solo projects on the go. I'm happy with the way things are.

over-dependence and insecurity is not limited to those without friends. I have known many, many people who had oodles of friends, who were also one step away from being sectioned by the mental health act, or arrested for stalking. Just because someone has many "friends" (and I use this term very, very loosely) doesn't mean that the friendships are good or meaningful.

In this particular girls case, I think her friendlessness is merely a symptom of something deeper going on, and not the main cause. Your friend could have run into this problem if she were the most popular person on the block. I also think Sapphires assessment is spot on. Thanks.

Wow. Hi Ann. Welcome to GFF. I'm impressed with you already.

I'm a friendly person. I DO have friends, but I don't really need them. I don't feel obligated to keep friends or friendships. I am not much of a clingy person, either.

Some people just do alright without friends - some people eve prefer it in some cases. Especially when you're working and you're in school all the time - you have no time to make friends and maintain those friendships - so you go without.

You really need to take things on a case-by-case basis. Not ALL friendless people are clingy assholes who will threaten to kill themselves when you leave them. Some people just prefer it that way. (Albeit the MINORITY are like this)

Just be analytical and watch for red flags if you decide to date a girl with no friends. Consider her age and profession as well.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Minion

Bros before hos isn't just some crass misogynistic aphorism for "players". It's good advice.

I couldn't disagree with you more.

The phrase puts the priority of your friends in front of the priority of your partner. I think thats absolutely RETARDED.

Family is likely the only thing that a person can arguably be put in front of your partner/spouse/whatever.

That's some of the worst advice I've ever heard. DO NOT put your friends before your partner. You'll find yourself a lonely bloke with a shitload of friends.

(At the same time, exercise some fucking self-control. Don't go one way or the other to the extreme).

Quote:

If you haven't exchanged rings yet, shes still a "ho" no matter how you feel about her.

Even AFTER you've exchanged rings, marriage don't mean shit. People can still leave a marriage and/or destroy them.

And your terminology leads me to believe you're bitter about something.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by LeHah

Thats the only part of your reply that made any sense, Sass. Putting anyone before anyone is stupid to begin with. If someone in your life is impeading you from being friends with the other person, then theres obviously a problem that needs to be fixed.

Yea, the point is, "bros before hos" is among one of the worst pieces of advice I've heard when it comes to relationships.

You're right - no one should be put before another - but sometimes in life, some hard choices need to be made. While everyones' priorities differ, "bros before hos" will probably not get you too far in a relationship.

Just sayin'

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.