Sex or Violence?

To be strict, both sex and violence have their own sets of negative influences.

Thus I think it is wrong to focus on suppressing one versus the other. Either you suppress both or don't.

The best example I can think of, and I hate to acknowledge this, is Japan. There, both sex and violence are given a relatively free reign in media as long as it is within certain bounds of Japanese taste. The society overall is not that much worse off for doing so, since they understand there are set boundaries between public and private lives. Their crime rate is incredibly low. Sexual deviants can do whatever the hell they want so long as they don't try to make it known to the world. So there is a very distinct level-thing going on in Japan where in the public sphere, it's all relatively tame, while underground is full of extreme things. They have an outlet for those tendencies. And so long as it doesn't come to harm, it's fine.

That's what lacking in places like Europe where outlets of violence are suppressed thus leading to such exorbitant displays of crime going on, such as in France right now with the youth violence and in the USA where abstinence only education is leading to more sex. There needs to be safe outlets for both things or we'll continually recoil constantly with each instances of school shooting or date rape.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Well, I never claimed Japan was progressive. The overarching model they run on is "anything goes, so long as you keep quiet about it, and everyone else will be none the wiser". That's what you get when with a shame-based society.

I have no base to determine whether or not it is better than censorship.

There's nowhere I can't reach.