Girls, myself, and religion apparently can't mix

In terms of female companionship, these last few years have been downright grueling. I've been with two girls who were religious and have both dumped me because I'm atheist. Because I choose not to believe in God, I'm unacceptable to them.

My first girlfriend was Mormon. It wasn't until about a month after we started dating that I found this out. Soon after, she asked me about my beliefs, and then everything slid into ruin after a series of melancholy and awkward MSN conversations.

Second was Christian. This one lasted a solid three months. I knew she was religious, and I probably was wrong to date her from the get-go, but what we had was something I don't know I'll ever feel again. I'm certain that her parents had a part to play in convincing her to break up with me once they knew I was atheist.

I don't know how this keeps happening to me, but my current girlfriend and I are about to breakup. She's also a Christian, though I've noticed she's a lot more lenient in her ways. It's been two months since we've started dating, and only one month since we made our religious beliefs known to each other.

I don't want to break up with her! I'm sick and tired of this happening to me, all for nothing. These women are all beautiful inside and out, and aside from religion, nothing should have kept us apart. In every case, they all had to choose between me or God and I still don't know why to this day. Why do they have to make this choice!? I'm not Satan in human form, and I'm not evil in the least. In fact, I have a strong set of morals, maybe stronger than some religious people I know. The thing is I would NEVER degrade anyone, much less a mate, because of their religion. Why can't we just not bring up the subject while we're together?

Lastly, I had considered lying to my current girlfriend about my beliefs, but I'm sure the cat would be out of the bag in no time. I've also thought about the possibility of becoming Christian simply to keep us together. While I don't actually believe in God, I believe in spirituality and the afterlife. I would hope we could connect to each other in that sense.

I could really use some advice.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

It would seem that the option is for her to choose betweem me or Big Guns upstairs. I really wish it wouldn't have come down to this, but it's worth asking isn't it? I'm pretty sure the answer won't involve me, but closure to the whole situation would do wonders for my aching soul. Should/When things come to an end, I'll probably follow your advice, Greykin, and start weeding out the religious ones.

I'm totally open to going to church with her. I can at least act like I believe in God but, of course, I don't think it'll ever truly sink in.

And the thing about kids... my parents left it up to me whether or not I follow religion. However, I guess I was a little biased in that they haven't gone to church since I was born. When I have children, I would leave it up to their mother just to avoid conflict. Besides, from what I've seen, there's nothing wrong with the values they teach in church.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

That's a beautiful thing you having going on Chibi. Congratulations!

To be honest, I wish more people would see things from your point-of-view. However, I'm sure this would cause all kinds of commotion everyone has their own take on what religion is and how far they take their beliefs.

I can't really blame my girlfriend for not seeing things my way, since some religious friends of mine have told me they've been kind of "brainwashed" into certain ideas about God since they were little. For the record, I don't care if the people here are biased towards God or not. I'd like all opinions from both sides of the fence.

The storm is coming any day now. I'm waiting for her to come back from a trip with her family, and I'm certain we're going to break it off. In reality, she's going to be breaking up with me, while I pretend that it's mutual. I have a lot of hate going through my mind right now. Questions I'd like to stab at her are: "Why can't you be open-minded about other people's beliefs?", "Why are you letting an invisible force control your life?" and "Do you honestly believe that believing in God equates to happiness in your life?" Of course I can't ask those.

Maybe I just don't understand, maybe I don't care. I don't even want think about how much I hate the idea of religion right now.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Heh, it not like I have a fetish for religious girls. :P

I'm thoroughly attracted to women who have self-respect and morals. Evidentally, it seems that only females of faith have these kind of traits? Not that I'm saying an atheist can't be a kind and loving person. It just seems to go against this stereotype. :\

(I am an unlucky sort of person though...)

For all it's worth, we officially broke up today. She wants to be friends, but I'm not keen on it. We've been together for a very short amount of time and having her around would be like masochism for my heart. I'll deeply miss our chats about everything, but I guess the situation is permanent.

Thank you for your views, everyone.

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Sassafrass, you are my hero (heroine, apparently!). <3

One other question that's been riddling me. If a person can dump another because of religious beliefs, how can they morally keep friends who are of different faiths or none at all? You can expect only your partner to hop to God's side of the fence while your best friend can go scot-free? Are there separate rules for platonic and romantic relationship?

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by Greykin

Because you love them, so naturally you'd want them to be saved so you can see them in heaven as well.

Is this why she dumped me? Because IF there is a heaven, she absolutely has to see me there for her to have a happy life on mortal Earth? Sounds more self-convoluted to me than really having anything to do with actually believing in God.

I know I keep interrupting with my lame questions, but I'm really in the dark about the specifics of religious relationships.

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I keep seeing that word "compromise" popping up. How does one compromise on beliefs? I don't really think you can. I think the word we're looking for is "acceptance"? It'd be nice if my ex could accept that I might not go to church on Sunday, or that I'm probably going to Hell because I don't believe in God. (heh) :\

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After reading this thread, I've realized that I'm a staunch atheist. I don't agree with the idea God, and I certainly don't agree with a lot of decisions made in the name of whatever deity people pray to.

Buh. I'm also done with women for the time being, as well. :\ I really don't have anymore questions or input.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?