Question for the girls

Originally Posted by Devo

Which is SO hypocritical on our part since we spend how much time so they actually DO find us attractive? Then when they happen to comment and recognize it we're like "eww creep."

Yea.. What the fuck is that about? On the couple occasions I have went up to a girl I didn't know and asked her for her number, 30% of the time she'd fork over the digits and not call while 70% of the time she'd laugh and walk away. I always thought doing that atleast showed you had enough self-confidence to handle yourself, let alone a potential mate. However, as soon as someone unknown approaches a girl, they're all "OMG STALKER!!!!".

What's up with that? :eyebrow:

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Originally Posted by Smoodle

Ewwww, she thinks she can judge a man's personality within the 2 seconds it takes for him to muster up the courage and ask for her number!

It's my understanding that lots of girls do this.. But I'm trying to figure out the logic behind this.

My point is that it's veeery easy to label a dude as a testerone-filled, pussymongering, sexually driven manwhore. Even though it's a safe assumption to make, it isn't exactly fair for those who may approach a girl with genuine intentions.

Would it make more sense to say this-

"Hey. Ya know, you seem like a very nice girl and it'd be awesome if I got your number. Maybe we could chat for a little, or grab a bite to eat."

OR

"Hey. I saw you from around the way and I just couldn't resist coming up to your and asking for your hand in marraige. From what I can tell, you are everything I want in a woman and I'd like to start a family with you, have 7 kids, and be buried in matching plots when we grow old together and die."

Apparently, in both cases you're labeled a creep.

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Originally Posted by Smoodle

You don't want the girl who thinks of you as a creep, anyway.

True, that's why I'm trying to figure out the differences between those who would consider me a creep vs. those who wouldn't. The line between the two is almost impossible to discern.

Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

It would worry me to think that I was going out with a girl who was so easily "procured".

Likewise. That would be pretty awkward for me since, as you said before, there has to be some sort of preliminary conversation if you're seriously considering dating. That would leave maaany questions unanswered, and you may be getting into something that's well over your head.

Originally Posted by Devo

It's like wearing meat and wondering why the dogs are sniffing you.

YES. What you say about women being attention whores is pretty accurate. Furthermore, I think women who turn down men feed off that just as much as they do the attention they received. As if it's empowering to get a man all worked up and lift his confidence, only to dash all his hopes and belittle him as a person.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by kat

We all know girls like this, they get what they deserve but how do people distinguish between the attention whores and the ones who just dress how they want to dress for themselves.

I agree with ya there. Girls who 'get what they deserve' gives a bad wrap for all the other innocent girls out there. Some girls wear makeup for no particular reason other than to look a little bit better than normal. However, there are girls who use their elevated looks as a weapon, and procede to use this weapon on any hapless guy who may cross her path.

Moreso, how to distinguish the evil attention whores from the good is what I've been trying to figure out since I first came across this thread! I'm beginning to think it's impossible, however.

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Originally Posted by Fyodor D.

It is impossible to do on sight. You actually have to take a risk, and converse with her.

I was going to make that very same point, but opted out of it.

It is impossible to do on sight, but since this entire thread is based on visual observations leading to concrete assumptions about a woman's character, I figured I wouldn't get into it.

Regardless, I agree, you'll never know how shallow a girl is until you've witnessed it first hand. Looks are not proper grounds to judge a person, but it's faaar too easy to jump to conclusions simply from someone's appearance.

Personally, I'm more interested about WHY women will look at you negatively if you do display some courage and approach them. Why is it that the woman who wear makeup for attention are too proud to accept this attention in good graces?

I was speaking idiomatically.