May 9, 2010, 06:53 AM
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I knew of a starter marriage (less than 3 years) that failed due to this same situation. Complacency is evil in some relationships I know. But yeah, they BOTH got complacent of each other, and then one day its the wife that wakes up and realizes that her hubby needs to get off of the computer and do something with his ass. He was taken back by this but ya know, like usual, he thought she's just being "a woman" and will eventually get over it. :\ And he just swing that chair around and play some more pc gaming. Its very weird seeing him like that.
We were friends since the day her and I had met him. He danced with me first but I didn't take interest in him or anything, she did though. And it was interesting to note that not only he dropped out of a good school to continue this expensive relationship with her, he also stopped swing dancing (his thing for fun) some years later. He was reduced to this hallow husk of a shell in that chair. It was frightening.
My visit there was a temporary getaway from the hell of my own family, and just in 2 days I knew they were headed for trouble. :\ Especially the second day with her meeting up with a guy at Bennigans and we ate together with another friend. I didn't like how she basically resigned to that fact that her relationship with him isn't worth the talk or the reconcile or the wait on the separation. I mean christ, you spent what amount of time with this person? It wasn't very fair... to either of them, but I knew better not to get involved. My friend had had issues before him anyway... so I felt bad for him honestly.
So my advice to you? Prepare for the worst. If she really wants change, she just might get it from another guy. Afterall that's what she just did when she met you didn't she? :\
Jam it back in, in the dark.
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Philia