Friend advice

I was in the same boat as Temari. I had a best friend for 17 years, despite of all of her flaws, I loved her a lot. But... like her friend did, when she's going downhill, she's really going down. :\ Despite of everything I said or tried to do for her, she was going downhill on her own accord. Its very hard to see something precious go out of control and you have to let it go.

The issue here isn't really your friend, but can you let her go? I had a real bitch of a time doing this with my precious best friend. I was angry, I was depressed, I was going out of my mind running out of options to save her. (She was turning into a drunk, going to all of the wrong men, and etc.) But then at the end, I realized, should I stoop my life low enough for her to recognize my advice and be worth saving? That's when I let her go. Call me selfish, but I know when to say "when". I sometimes wish to know what the hell was she thinking. She's supposed to be my own best friend and yet I don't even know her that well.

While I'm sure this is an extreme case, but the advice still applies here. You can only do something about how you think for yourself, heeding advice here and there isn't going to help you or your friend to hear or understand better.

You do have my sincere sympathies for what happening to your friend. While you wish she deserves better, you should deserve a better friend.

(This is obviously an extreme example for a lighter situation, so feel free to take this with a grain of salt.)

Jam it back in, in the dark.