Negative feelings towards love...advice appreciated.

Originally Posted by x86

Long time before the crash, I was known in this forum as LordSyl. Back then, I created one or two posts where I spoke about my "love life" (relationship-wise, I mean ), which was (and still is) non-existant, and I'm in harder conditions than you: Almost 22 years old, and extremely small social base (family, basically).

To the point: I received similar answers: "love will come to you" and "it'll hit when you least expect it" and so - but no signs o'life yet.
I'm somewhat skeptic (though chances of it happening shouldn't be discarded, let's be optimistic ) but hey, those phrases end up sounding like automated answers. :lolsign:

Well, I for one admit that it's easier to get a girl if you go looking for one (ask me back in sophomore year of college... it would take me a matter of days to get a girl if I wanted).

HOWEVER... none of those worked out. One 8-monther, and many shorter ones.

A whopping two months after I said to myself "fuck this girl-hunting thing, I don't care anymore," I met the girl I'm about 99.9% sure I'm gonna marry.

So yeah, if you just want someone to spend time with and/or get some dating experience with, go look. But if you're thinking long-term, the "love will come to you" thing worked for me.

(And just in case you're one of those who hasn't done the dating thing much yet... I highly recommend it! Yes, I have to say I enjoy my time with my current girl immensely, but I wouldn't trade that period when I sometimes dated several girls in a month for anything. It was definitely a learning/growing experience)

Jam it back in, in the dark.