Sep 19, 2006, 01:36 PM
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It's very likely that human nature would explain the human proclivity to cheat, mainly because human nature is essentially warped and malevolent. It's important to note that "nature", meaning the way things are without societal influence, is not in any way necessarily equivalent to "good." So, of course, calling something natural would be a meager excuse for it. Human nature is selfish, brutal and violent.
On the other hand, forgiveness, which is definitely not a natural tendency, is a good thing, regardless of culture or religion. That being the case, it would probably be best to forgive someone for any act of infidelity provided it was an expression of human nature (fallibility) and not an expression of what is "in his/her heart".
In general, I would say it is beneficial and wise to forgive all actions provided they're a breech in character, but not to tolerate someone with selfish or malevolent heart. I think it's pretty simple to tell the difference by spending plenty of time with the person and observing whether the occurrence is repeated or if there is some progress. There should be a limit, not to forgiveness, but to the frequency of unfaithful acts beyond which one would equate the occurrence to a problem of the heart and not the will; in which case, it would be wise and beneficial to get rid of the person in question. Kids complicate the issue, but consider the negative impact of staying with a cheater and weigh them with the consequences of leaving. Might it be more embarrassing and traumatic for the kid to grow up knowing his father is a cheat and his mother a doormat?
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