Casual dating

To simplify:

1. Seven years is a lot to get over. I forget which it was, but apparently it either takes half or double the time you were in the last relationship to get over. Apparently.

2. Given that, you probably don't want to get into anything serious (seeing your opening post, it looks like you've wisely chosen).

3. Girls who fake/play the "I have some dark family problem/secret" and try to disappear for some length are in some essence, batshit crazy or they're enjoying some S/M melodramatic scene by themselves.

4. If you're still hung on batshit crazy girl, your call. I think it is wise you keep seeing other people and making friends, but keep your dick in your pants.

Bottom line: you've been together with someone for seven years. That's a length of time that someone starts Junior High to graduate High School. Chances are, you've grown quite used to being dependent on having a woman around for support. My recommendation is that you learn to be by yourself again.

I don't know about your age, but that's what I imagine myself going through if my current relationship ended. I'm a completely different person than I was in my teens or my early 20's, let alone 7 years ago. I'll need to learn how to be independent or alone (read: single) and actually enjoy time to myself.

Also: I agree, it's hard finding nice single people to "hang out" with in Los Angeles without having any implication of attachment.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Hey Cellius,

Not to de-rail your thread to open the conversation up to a more generic topic on Casual dating than just an advice thread, but I was curious:

What conditions define "casual dating?"

I haven't been single for so long that it gets to the point where I think:
a) If I'm dating someone with no emotional attachment and no fore-seeable future together, what is the point?
and
b) If a) is true, I'd rather just be friends who like to occasionally hang out together (purse string / time permitting)

I feel like once a girl defaults on their position with a guy to b), they stop calling. But again, it's my opinion and I don't have much experience being single, so it's hard to judge.

How ya doing, buddy?