Your loved one falls into a coma. Do you start dating again?

I'm with a Lurker on this one.

Are those that are saying they would wait for ever and a day to be with 'the one' advocating pinning after someone you love even if they are no longer available to you for other reasons? They may have died, or left you. Would you then wait forever for 'the one' despite it being a lost cause?

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by a_dictator

Sorry but to say it like that, but if you seriously think about dating someone else while your wife's lying in coma, you're a fucking idiot. You married her because you promised that you'll always be there for her, in good and in hard times. So here's a hard time and you fucking have to deal with it.

And if you promise to your lover/wife/husband that you'll always be there for them, but then they leave you, what then? Your promise was made. Sure the circumstances that lead to your seperation differs, but by that logic you should remain commited, forever, no matter what. It does indeed sound like the logic that has never lost a loved one. You can only wait for so long before you should just move on.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by a_dictator

Well dude you already said it, that's an umm kinda different situation. I don't think that you can compare a divorce with a coma (sometimes, it's almost the same but oh well...). If couples get divorced the accept the fact that the other might not care about him or her anymore. How do you know that your spouse lying in coma doesn't want you to care about her?

I never said that you would stop caring about her, my point was just the opposite. In a situation where you still care about your spouse, what difference does it make whether it's a divorce or a coma? You *still* care, but somehow you can't/shouldn't accept the facts of the coma, but you can accept the facts of a seperation?

Accepting that you are not able to be with the person that you love does *not* mean that you no longer love that person.

Double Post:

Originally Posted by PiccoloNamek

If such a thing happened to me, I truly think I would wait as long as it takes, and if not that, at least a good 5-10 years. And I certainly wouldn't kill myself.

You do not know that. It's impossible for us to imagine how we'd react to such circumstances. It's very romantic and all to tell ourselves that we'd wait 5 *years* or more, and wouldn't get depressed to the point of suicide, but it's just fooling ourselves into thinking we'd be the 'best' example. It's easy to think one's self as a hero before you are faced with the situation, and a prolonged situation is even more difficult to guess.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Of course I don't know PiccoloNamek. But that doesn't change the fact that he/she doesn't know that aspect of themselves.

What is silly is people claiming that they know how they'll react under difficult circumstances. Especially at this relatively young stage of their lives. That's not to say that discussing one's current views on what they may do, and what they hope they would do is pointless. Just that making any kind of concrete prediction is just a guess.

Unless of course you want to argue that one's self perception is ever so accurate.

Also, what bearing does the coma victim having made a choice in the matter have on the situation? How does *your* vow have anything to do with their vow? Do *you* love only because your lover loves you back? Or is your love independant of their feelings?

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

What? I'm not going to watch some 14 episodes of a show to find out it's creator's interpretation of the subject. If you want to take their views as your own, you could share them with the rest of the group.

Edit: That came out harsh. Didn't mean it as such.

How ya doing, buddy?