Needing Some Counsel

The worst reason to stay with somebody is because you are with them. There should be more than that. What would really help is if people would just be with people that they like and care about, and have loyalty then, instead of just fucking around with whomever.

To leave a person because another comes along that catches your fancy is crass. If you are ready and willing to leave your current partner, you should do so on those grounds, instead of hanging around looking for someone better. You are just dicking around the person who you are with, but have no loyalty toward. It's a cowards way of dealing with life, rather be with someone they don't 'love', than be honest with themselves and their temporary partner.

For the first time I can kinda get on Alice's side of an issue. Being loyal to someone that you don't like/love is stupid, and you should leave that person. We've all known people that are in/stay in relationships just because it's what they know. How many times has the *only* reason a friend can come up with for being with their partner been 'We've been together for X amount of time.'? This only leads to people being unhappy with their choice of partner.

However, this case sounds like the OP is a pretty bad person. She shouldn't have left the guy for another, she should have broken up for reasons that applied between the two of them, instead of waiting for an opportunity to jump into another relationship. She clearly cared nothing for the first guy, this recent jealousy is likely something to the effect of 'I want him to miss me, and be sad and hopeless without me in his life' (Sorry to sound like SMX).

Jam it back in, in the dark.