Coming out to family and friends

This is just my opinion from personal experience.

First off this matter was very painful for me to bring up to family and friends and I do know what you are going through to some degree. The major problem I had was not knowing what friends and family were going to say.

You need to be comfortable with telling friends and family about being gay, don’t let it be forced or spontaneous. Don’t let this cause anxiety either, if you must tell some one do so, don’t let it consume you. The biggest rule is just be honest with yourself and don’t feel uncomfortable with you attraction. Love is love, one should never be obligated to take a path just because it is societies norm.

Now for the telling people part, only when you are ready and don’t feel anxious about it (well as least anxious as possible). First off ask yourself: do your friends and family love you? If the answer is yes than be at ease as they will accept you! Its hard to pick a perfect opportunity for telling people. I would recommend you do it in a place with little to no distraction, a quiet place if you will. Speak your true feelings, don’t cloud them. Be direct, and most importantly don’t be ashamed as there is nothing to be ashamed about!!!

Tell the people you have a closest bond with first (or the people you share with the most). In most cases it will hurt your friends and family if you don’t tell them. In the end don’t show people your false self.

Jam it back in, in the dark.