Coming out to family and friends

Just for the record here I am not a doctor nor am I gay or bi. What I offer are opinions, whether you take it as advice is your own choosing.

Well the thing most people would say is to wait for the right time to talk to friends and family (and this is true you should wait for the right time). However, what they do not say is what a "Right Time" is.

To me a "Right Time" can usually only be felt. However I find that the right time to talk about anything is when everything is calm, the mood is somewhat glad, or happy (like right after a fun activity with friends and family) and when nothing serious has come up recently (I use recently very loosely, I'm saying that if nothin big happend that day and it's the after noon, then that is a good time span). However avoid the Bad times. For instance, right after the target has a major negative episode is never a good time to come out. Also when the target is drunk or in a panic is also not a good time. Even if the target experiences a very negative episode that is completely unrelated to your subject, this will most likely not hurt your standing with the person at all.

Another issue that you brought up was who to tell first. In this kind of situation, I would talk to the person closest to you (Whether it be parents, friends, or family it's up to you [if you can't decide then go with the parents]). Another thing I would ask of them is to tell them to keep it a secret between the others that you know untill you tell everyone. Having someone else tell another target what you want to tell them can have a very negative impact as well as the possibility of making them avoid you before you have a chance to talk to them.

With the right timing and a smart analyzation of the surroundings, then you can reveal anything to anyone.

Jam it back in, in the dark.