I can't be alone in this.

I usually think about it as, "passivity is a by-product of something else." Lack of confidence, etc. For instance, I'm a pretty passive person most of the time, but when I'm really comfortable with the company or the subject at hand, I tend to speak up. Perhaps it's because I'm "shy" myself.

Also, it just doesn't work when there are too many aggressive people, too many leaders. Someone has to fall back for there to be order. I tend to be the person who does that in the group setting, or even in a personal relationships with a partner or friend. Sometimes (but not all the time) it's better to let go and avoid conflict, y'know?

Jam it back in, in the dark.